The Gracie family, the pioneers of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, have taken a stand against bullying. They’ve created a program called Gracie Bullyproof that gives kids and adults a whole set of tools to deal with bullies without resorting to violence.
In this blog post, we’re going to check out the Gracie Bullyproof Rules of Engagement and how they can help your kids handle bullying situations with confidence!
Rule 1: Avoid the fight at all costs
The primary and most critical rule in Gracie Bullyproof is to avoid a physical confrontation whenever possible. This emphasizes the importance of peaceful conflict resolution. Students are taught to use their verbal skills to de-escalate situations, seek assistance from adults or authorities, or simply walk away from the confrontation. By promoting avoidance of violence, the program prioritizes safety and emotional well-being.
Rule 2: If physically attacked, defend yourself
In cases where physical violence becomes unavoidable, Gracie Bullyproof teaches individuals to defend themselves effectively. Instead of encouraging aggression, the program instills self-defense techniques rooted in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, focusing on leverage, technique, and control rather than brute strength. This rule is a safety net, ensuring that students have the tools to protect themselves when no other option remains.
Rule 3: If verbally attacked, follow the Three T-steps (talk, tell, tackle)
Dealing with verbal bullying can be just as distressing as physical violence. Gracie Bullyproof introduces the Three T-steps: talk, tell, and tackle. First, students are encouraged to calmly address the situation verbally, seeking a peaceful resolution. If the verbal attack persists, they should report the situation to a trusted adult or authority figure. The final step, tackle, should only be employed when absolutely necessary, after exhausting the previous steps.
Rule 4: Never punch or kick the bully, establish control and negotiate
The program emphasizes the importance of avoiding aggressive actions like punching or kicking the bully, which can escalate the situation and potentially lead to legal consequences. Instead, students are taught to establish control through non-violent means. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu techniques are particularly useful in this regard, as they allow individuals to immobilize and control their attacker, creating an opportunity for peaceful negotiation or escape.
Rule 5: When applying submissions, use minimal force to negotiate
When the need for self-defense reaches the point of applying submission holds, Gracie Bullyproof instructs students to use minimal force to negotiate. This approach prevents unnecessary harm to the aggressor while maintaining control of the situation. By doing so, individuals can ensure their safety and reduce the likelihood of serious injuries.
Our Gracie Bullyproof program provides these rules and strategies to deal with bullying while prioritizing non-violence and emotional well-being. The rules encourage our students to seek peaceful resolutions, defend themselves when necessary, and apply Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu techniques to maintain control and negotiate, without resorting to punches or kicks. We have watched our students gain confidence, and resilience, and, ultimately, be prepared to stand up to bullies while fostering a culture of respect and empathy.
Give your kids these skills to stand up to bullies. Help them build confidence!